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Looking for Advise - not just from perdita_saxon either - all of you please :)

As you gentle readers know, I lament on a semi daily basis my unhappiness in career.

As I have said before, I now realize that it is not the boss (alone) but also what I do.

See, I'm an introvert. For someone who knows me well (ie the aforementioned perdita_saxon) then you would know this about me.

For those of you who casually know me - you might have been thinking there was SOMETHING about me you found off, but just couldn't put your fingers on it. Well, that's what it is. If you find me standoffish towards you - its because I don't know you well enough to allow you into me and therefore you meet up with the introverted EYES.

Being an introvert - albeit a strong willed person who kicks ass at her job and is so damn good that her boss is freakin at the possibility of losing me - I hate what I do.

I don't like dealing with people. I like being on my own. Quietly working on what I do.

Honestly, I LIKE what it is that I do. I just hate dealing with people.

I hate answering this phone. I hate dealing with clients.

Leave me alone to work on pleadings, leave me alone to work on letters, leave me alone to update titles and get the basic information needed for a title exam. I'm fine. I'm happy with this. I'm happy when that phone does not ring and I don't have to talk to people.

Don't get me wrong. I know I have to have daily contact of some kind. But I would prefer it to be my family and friends. That is why I spend way too much time reading LJ friends lists and chatting away in emails.

I took a couple of online career tests - one told me my personality type - another suggested careers for me. Ironically one of the careers suggested for me was LAWYER. Sigh. RUN AWAY

I want to be a stay at home mom (SAHM) but I also want to be a productive, income earning, member of my family.

I don't know of any attorneys who could use a free-lance paralegal in the area.

I would have to look towards a major city - Dayton or Cinci - but even then those attorneys want someone working in house, under their noses.

If only I could learn to totally do title searchs. That would so much help me out.

Because then I could take that, and take my legal knowledge, and I could begin to work towards my goal of working from home.

I know of one attorney off the top of my head who would be more than happy to assign me his title work.

So, what I need advice from you about is, do you have any ideas outside of what I have already come up with? Suggestions please. Thank you, from every part of me, thank you.

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revsphynx
Jul. 14th, 2003 07:23 am (UTC)
luckeyisis filled in for vacationing legal secretaries for a while before finding a full-time job. Maybe you could put the word out that you're available to fill in like that?
eyes_of_beauty
Jul. 14th, 2003 07:35 am (UTC)
Thank you
I've already thought of that - but re-read where I wrote that I'm an introvert - which means I hate people contact.

That's what being a legal secretary is - lots of people contact.

I have my paralegal degree - not had much chance to use it as I keep finding jobs with sole practitioners and get stuck in the role of "jack of all trades, master of none".

In the grand scheme of things - I've done the temp services route and there are not a lot of legal jobs going through temp services. In fact, that is how I got my current position.

Thank you for the input - your thoughts are greatly appreciated!!!
revsphynx
Jul. 14th, 2003 07:36 am (UTC)
Re: Thank you
I didn't mean you'd have to be a legal secretary, I meant that you could let attorneys know that you're not interested in full-time work, but you're available on a part-time basis to fill in for vacationing paralegals, etc.
eyes_of_beauty
Jul. 14th, 2003 07:37 am (UTC)
Re: Thank you
Thank you for clarifying! :)
lordvazago
Jul. 14th, 2003 08:35 am (UTC)
hey if you have to move to Cinci I know of a house for sale. :)
eyes_of_beauty
Jul. 14th, 2003 08:37 am (UTC)
:)
No thanks. I want my kids in a good school district. I hear the one that house is in, while a nice house it IS, is not the best of school districts for my kids sake.
lordvazago
Jul. 14th, 2003 09:05 am (UTC)
Re: :)
Hey gotta offer. Love ya S.
modelveracity
Jul. 14th, 2003 09:45 am (UTC)
Get to work on those people skills! You sound like I did years ago. I couldn't avoid people contact, especially as a developer or network technician. There is no place to hide! hehehe

All jobs require that we interct with others with whom we may not like to. I turned it into a game of sorts. Then, I actually found myself liking the players! Maybe you can make it fun somehow!

hehe!
eyes_of_beauty
Aug. 1st, 2003 06:54 am (UTC)
Taken so long to respond
I've been thinking. About a lot of things. I hear what you are saying.

I'm not a people in general person. I'm better one on one.

My SIL tells me that she hates the phone so badly (she has to answer it at work too) that she does NOT answer the phone at home at night and lets the machine get it. If its someone she wants to talk to she answers, if not, she doesn't.

I wish I had that will power. LOL

Give me a one on one situation. Give me a job where I can just go off and work on my own with my own projects - getting more from the boss of course from time to time when the others are complete - and I will be happy.

If I could figure out a way to do what I do now from home - I would jump on that. Because I could be with the kids, get them off to school (she is already registered for Head Start so she could technically go this fall), and then work while they were gone. That would give me about 2 + hours a day to work.

I've just been doing lots of thinking.

I would love to cut my hours here at the office but that's not bloodly likely about to happen because he would definitely NOT allow me to do that.

In some ways I DO have it easy here. In others, I work for a tyrant. Just depends on the day and his mood. Which is not good for employee moral.

I'm looking for ways to make what I want, happen. My eyes are open for opportunities.

One has presented itself but it is one that will have to start small, and on the weekends, before I could quit working this job. If it pans out. Fingers are crossed there. Yes I'm being vague but I don't know how things are going to go, therefore there is no further point in mentioning what it is.

The bad part is that everything takes time and I'm impatient.

So my PATIENCE is what I have to work on. :)
sorcha999
Jul. 14th, 2003 10:23 am (UTC)
Actually, my whole department took that test. If it is the Myers - Briggs Carreer personality test then it is the same one.

One thing they stressed with us when we took it is not to take the results and just live with them. The whole excercise was about self-awareness and the whole point to self-awareness is to improve your weaknesses.

The whole point of them giving us this test was to learn where our weaknessess were and then work to change those weaknesses into strengths so that we can have more strengths than weaknesses. I recall our HR representative saying "Now, I had better not hear things said such as 'Now that's why I'm so rude to so-and-so because I'm an ESTJ.' or 'That's why I hate file work and answering phones because I'm an INFP'". What he wanted to hear was "Hey, I knew I hated doing this, but now that I know why, I can work on the source of the problem instead of just hating to do this thing."

It really helped the whole cheesy team building thing you're supposed to be concerned with in corporate America.

So I guess my advice is now that you know why you hate answering those phones and working with people, maybe you can work on the source of the problem instead of just continuing to hate to work with people. The more you keep your options open, the more valuable you are to any organization, and the more likely you are to get the job you're looking for.

It may sound like happy cheesy advice, but that's all I know to give you cause it sounds like you're miserable and that's the only way I know of to actually fix the problem.

I'm an INFP by the way. :-)

Introverted
Intuition based
Feeler who uses
Perception.

It's a BITCH!
perdita_saxon
Jul. 14th, 2003 11:23 am (UTC)
While's it's great to know
what you MB test is...

When you work for a self centered, passive aggressive and hyper-intense dick. You still work for a dick.

I know what upsets you more than not liking your job, profession and field. It's that you just can't up and change what you are doing right now.

Go have youknowwho teach you how to do title exams.

Now go and wrestle the dramallama back into their pens, please.
modelveracity
Jul. 14th, 2003 01:56 pm (UTC)
Re: While's it's great to know
What's a dramallama?

Also, and you might call me a dick for saying this, most people who call others 'dick' or 'bitch' are those who don't know how to interpret how a individual might use language. Some structure word presentation demandingly because they know no other way to achieve the goals they desire.

Gee, I think we know people who do that! Does it mean they are asses? Not necessarily. We all want things, and we like those who help us get 'em. The trick is learning to interpret what is there without getting offended; no character armor here, just plain old understanding and compassion required.

Do what you will! This is not a flame.
perdita_saxon
Jul. 15th, 2003 07:10 am (UTC)
Re: While's it's great to know
While you could be considered a 'dick' shortened from richard.

dick, is a code between EOB and I for DUDE I COULD KICK.


Dramallama's are those fears, anxieties that grow and grow until you shear them and do something productive - like taking the proverbial wool and knitting a sweater . .

Calling the boss an ass would just be giving him too much credit. The shear power of the butt muscles help move the body.

The goal I simple desire is to win a really big powerball;EOB and I will have some BIG fun.
eyes_of_beauty
Jul. 14th, 2003 11:58 am (UTC)
Thanks
1st - that rant from perdita_saxon was only half meant for you. Unfortunately you will have to be the one to figure it out as its not on my screen just now for me to tell you what is for you and what is meant for me.

2nd - Congrats - I'm the same as you - which may explain why we get along so well.

3rd - I hear what you are saying about strengths and weaknesses. I read what my report said about wording your weaknesses so that they sound like strengths.

4th - I've been wracking my brain about how to come to terms with everything so that I may remain employed and withdraw at the same time. I can turn my weakness into a strength by learning a new part of my choosen career. Like title exams.

Yes, I would be working with other people - but not THAT many people. If I can work under this boss, fine, if he wants to be a boob about it, then I will just go to someone else who would be willing to train me.

Do you know how in demand a paralegal with title exam experience is? Do you know what kind of money I could command?

And be a free lancer - wooooo - then I could set my own hours and work as much or as little as I want to work.

See, I'm thinkin!

Plus I'm going to call another paralegal that I know who went out on her own earlier this year and talk to her about how she set about doing it.

I know several attorneys who need help but cannot afford someone full time or cannot afford the time to train someone.

See, again, I'm thinkin!

Though dear hubby suggests that I contact a certain Cinci based legal placement and let them know I'm available for part-time work. I'm thinking about doing this too.
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