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He just won't let go

Got ANOTHER email from Steve. This time he says that he has been in therapy for 3 years for anger management, depression and cognitive behavorial therapy.

Things I could have told him long ago that he needed, but Mr. Prep thought he was Mr. Perfect.

I suppose that with this therapy he is now trying to ease his own concious on how he treated me - that is why he is trying to contact me. He realizes how wrong he treated me.

This email says, direct quote: "You know you could at least give me a Hi in return!!!"

Sorry bout his luck, he ain't gettin no satisfaction from me!

Am I being cruel?

No.

I've done my therapy time. I've mourned his loss. I've angered at his stupidity. I've made my peace with myself. I don't need his acceptance.

He shouldn't need mine.

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perdita_saxon
Aug. 1st, 2003 02:51 am (UTC)
You are right
It's not up to you you to forgive him for being a ass.
By forgiving him, you validate his behavior in the past.

Why do we think I don't forgive certain people? Not because I am a hard heart major league bitch(well I am that as well). It's because it's their guilt, not mine.

He is the one that re-opened his own woundage, he just has to stop pouring the salt on it.
eyes_of_beauty
Aug. 1st, 2003 03:02 am (UTC)
Re: You are right
Sometimes it is hard to accept your past and move on. I know from experience. But you just have to. You cannot linger on it. You have to say "ok, I did that, I don't like that I did that, but I did" and move on.

Once you move on, then you can begin to heal. And hopefully learn from your mistakes.

I know I didn't learn this lesson until intense therapy with a wonderful therapist. I could not thank her enough. She is no longer with that company and I don't know how to find her and I'm fine with that. She needed to move on. I just hope she got my final message thanking her before she left. That is something I will never know and not something I worry about.

I will not respond to him. I will let him keep writing. I'm saving the emails in case I need them in the future for something but I'm also putting them away out of sight, out of mind.

Its not that I could care less, well, yes it is. :)

He will just have to accept that I'm not responding.
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